How To Grow Waist Length Relaxed Hair

This was a phrase that I would search for in my early days of researching about hair because I so wanted to grow my hair to lengths that I never had. I picked up some very important tips and tricks along the way that I want to share with you. When beginning your long hair journey, remember these step-by-step instructions. Please note that everybody’s hair differs. Some of these steps may seem strange at first, but they will be beneficial in the long run.

  1. Cut your hairCut my hair? Yes, cut it. Whether your hair is natural or relaxed if you have split raggedy ends, you need to give your hair a nice trim before you start out. If it is uneven and ragged or some strands are longer than others just cut it. Split ends can never be repaired, they just keep on splitting up to the hair root. Just cut them off. Hair grows an average six inches per year, you will get back some of it this year if you treat your hair right.
  2. Extend your relaxing session. If you used to relax your hair every ten weeks, extend it to twelve. You will have to learn how to embrace your two textures by using moisture and inventive hair styles. The important thing to note is that the longer your natural hair growth is the better it is for processing without overlapping the processing of your new growth and your previously relaxed hair.
  3. Start going natural. Not back to your natural hair if that is not something that you want to do but back to natural products. This might prove to be the best thing that you ever do for your hair. Petroleum, mineral oil and similar products do not promote hair growth. Natural products like carrot, molasses, eggs and natural oils can be better alternatives than the stuff that you get in bottles.
  4. Dump fine tooth combs and hard brushes. Chuck them in the trash, anything that can snag your ends will do your hair little good.
  5. Use only those products that are proven to work for you. Through trial and error many of us have come to discover certain products that we can’t do without. If they make your hair silkier and softer, why switch or experiment? Chuck the rest that are cluttering your cupboard, remember less is more.
  6. Deep condition hair with heat every week. This used to be somewhat of a bother for me but it works. Find a good deep conditioner with protein and moisture balance and do it every week. You will see the difference after three or so weeks.
  7. Stop shampooing your hair with commercial shampoos. Lather rinse repeat cannot be your mantra for black hair. Not all shampoos are created equal, some of them contain harmful chemicals and toxins that will strip hair and cause excess dryness. The ones that sud the most are the worst. Use regular conditioner to wash your hair instead, find a sulphate free shampoo or make your own hair products.
  8. Relax. I am serious, do not be so stressed out, it will make your hair fall out (stress hair loss). I had a friend who used to follow every hair tip I told her but her hair would still not budge. Then she got rid of her headache-inducing man and her hair began to grow like a weed.
  9. Hair Food. Try to eat those foods which will enhance hair growth and retention. Some of them are foods which contain protein and iron, along with a well balanced diet, you are on the right track. Do not take so-called hair supplements from just any company. If you eat right and exercise you do not need to take supplements at all.
  10. Water. Drink plenty of water it is like tonic to your hair, it is great to moisturize the hair from within.

Employ all of these ten steps and you will have your waist length hair. Hair grows an average of ¼ inch to ½ inch per month. It is up to you to retain this hair growth through healthy hair practices.


  • Tash said:

    Great information I will pass this on to my daughter….she has a goal to grow her hair.

    • Tasha said:

      Wash hair every two weeks. Use heat once a month. Use she butter, coconut oil and a good leave in conditioner on wet hair. Let your hair air dry. If it is hair to comb when it is dry. Use some more coconut, part your hair in six sections and put coconut and Honey I am strong Herbal essence on each section. You could plat each section up with this. It will work. Put a silk scarf on or a silk cap on your hair. Leave it on until the next day. Take it out one by one and enjoy your hair. Every two days add oil. Don’t foreget to wash your hair every two weeks.Sometimes I wash my hair every 3 weeks.

  • jody said:

    hope this works for me i have been trying like…… foreveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrr

    • Sorena said:

      Did it work. I mean I just found out that hair grows about 6 inches every year or so. So did it work. Have you gotten some growth? Let me know please

  • taymoi said:

    My hair it’s uneven lengths. Do you guys have any good tips for that?

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Taymoi,
      We have the same issue too! There are some things you can do to rectify this you can cut all your hair until it is at an even length and then keep shaping it up, or wait until the shorter pieces are at a length that you find acceptable and then cut the longer pieces to that level.

    • joseph said:

      no problem I will give u the best way for u just meet me what’s up or Viber …..this my address 251943113096/ ok thanks

  • Gloria said:

    Am a nigerian girl, wishing to have a fuller and also a long hair, my hair is scanty and also breaking. What’s the remedy.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hey Gloria, welcome, you’ve come to the right place. Maybe you should start at the hair regimen section and click on shedding/breaking.

  • edima said:

    hi cani i was wondering if i can do a pre poo after a hot oil treatment and also after the pre poo i can use the vinigar to wash it out

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Edima,

      Pre-poo simply means before you shampoo. For some people a hot oil treatment is a pre-poo. Yes you can use diluted apple cider vinegar to rinse out the hair after a pre-poo.

  • J said:

    Hi, I have been reading all your post. I’m looking for a new way to treat my hair to make it grow longer and healthier like when I was younger. I’m changing my diet and exercise, treatments, but over 5 months it just doesn’t grow. What is your view on birth control and hair growth because I think that might be the problem?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi J,
      Are you sure that your hair has not moved even a 1/4 inch in 5 months? Is it breaking? There are some birth control medications that can cause hair loss and thinning, I am not aware of it causing hair to just not grow. I have an article on here about causes of thinning hair and breakage Thinning Hair Causes. Give your hair some time to adjust to the new things you are doing because even positive changes like a better or different diet and even exercise can throw off your hair cycle a bit.

      • lili said:

        Hair always grows even when you are dead. More than likely its just breaking and you dont notice it…moisture is your best friend and deep conditioners and silk pillow cases.

  • zanny said:

    hi my hair is uneven and very dry. my hair use to be long but i losted it i dont understand what im doing wrong. its a new year and i want my long hair back!please help

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Zanny,
      I am sorry to hear about this. You can start by looking at the regimens and see if they are any help to you. There are lots of resources on the site to help you.

  • Rose said:

    H, Im Rose my hair is damaged from heat, and i would like to know is it best to blow dry my hair with a a hand blow dryer or with a hood blow dryer thanks .

  • aashlei said:

    Hi, i want to grow my relaxed to my waist or like to inches above. My hair is at bra strap length But my hair seems to shed more than i think it should so it grows but the sheding makes it where it stays at one length.

  • Azy said:

    Hi Brenda,

    i trim my hair the same day after i relax my hair that is after every 3 months but it tends to get dry and kinky after the first wash. i condition my hair with mayonnaise treatment after evry 2 weeks but it doesnt have that lusture am looking for…….please help.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Azy,
      There are a few things that can give you luster and sheen: Hot oil treatments, Hair Butters, Rinsing with Apple Cider Vinegar as your last rinse after a conditioner, Rinsing with Teas.

      • Azy said:

        i have been using olive, coconut and castor oil as a hot oil treatment as we don’t have peppermint and eucalyptus oil in Mombasa. is the end product supposed to be shiny hair only? my hair is now growing abit faster than before and my hair colour is changing from reddish brown to a darker reddish brown

  • Azy said:

    Hi Brenda,

    i have been using olive, coconut and castor oil as a hot oil treatment as we don’t have peppermint and eucalyptus oil in Mombasa. is the end product supposed to be shiny hair only? my hair is now growing abit faster than before and my hair colour is changing from reddish brown to a darker reddish brown.

  • shantel said:

    Hi brenda my name is shantel im 15 and i.would really love your advice if you dont mibd see here ive been trying to grow my hair out for along time beauticians email addresses and ive tried everything my hair is bra strap lengthh bu t i want it to get waist length can you.please please please help me out by emaling me and telling me or advising me with tips and advice i would really love it my email adress is gracias sooo much

  • melanie said:

    Brenda I av a problem with my hairline,its receding.what home remedies can u give coz my hair is relaxed.and what advice can u offer me,is it OK if I switch from doing chemical relaxers to natural or homemade relaxers? Liz help me

  • Trisha said:

    I have to attain a marriage after 2 months, and I need my hair to be little thick and long till waist level, I don’t use oil so can you give me a easy way to do everything..

  • gracie said:

    Pls dear, I just don’t want to cut my hair , I have a thick hair but my back hair has refused to grow longer but my middle hair is long, I started massaging the back of my head yesterday, will it help? I need my back hair back!!!

  • Shayla said:

    I have been natural for 4 1/2 years… As of this month I had waist length hair and just recently did a cut back to in between mid back length and waist length because I totally got lazy and stopped treating my hair right and it broke off in the middle back of my head… smh… I love your list of do’s and don’ts but do not forget protective styling. Bunning my hair worked well for me and using coconut oil to protect my hair (especially the ends) as well… I am headed back to my old length by hopefully April 2014…. Check out my profile pic…. I love your hair!!!! Great post!!!!

  • gracey said:

    hi brenda
    how do u take care of a short hair at d back of my scalp and a longer one at d middle. if i should cut of d longer ones to d length of d shorter ones, how long will it take for me to get a shoulder length hair?

  • isioma said:

    Hi, i relaxed my hair just last month and now my hair is now very hard and dirty and also although my hair is almost shoulder length but the front and back are becoming scanty, Just the middle is getting longer.pls what do i do?

  • Genny said:

    I stopped texturizing and relaxing my hair for a long while because I was trying to go natural but I really don’t want to cut a lot of my hair so what do I do to help my hair grow faster

  • jumoke said:

    Thanks a lot! I’ve been trying to grow my hair with a shampoo that lathers a lot. So gonna change it today 🙂

  • jumoke said:

    By the way, I wanted to know what my weekly schedule for conditioning and shampooing should be like (including deep conditoining) if I have moderate dry hair

  • jas said:

    My bf already was mad the first time I cut my hair, and when it started to grown I permed my hair again. Should I really cut it or should I just put individuals in it for this winter and treat it with castor, coconut, and oilive oil, I also am about to start joining my fruits and vegetables to make sure I get all the nutrient I need I researched and it said u gotta be healthy on the in for it to show on the out

  • tisha said:

    I have a relaxer and my hair is uneven I never cutted my hair before is there a way I can do something else besides cutting it I don’t fell comfortable cutting it

  • Ashley said:

    Hey my question is do you think my hair will be able to grow if I just cut it real short and wore sew in cause my hair used to get straighten and it was a nice length thick and healthy I decided to go get a relaxer everything was fine till I got a new hair dresser I think she used an strong relaxer in my hair and damage it since then I went back to straightening and using pantene shampoo and conditioner and it seems like it still haven’t grown and it been over 6years now my hair thin and it grows so far and stops or just get back short and grow back to the short length..HELP!!! What

  • Tawanna said:

    Hi, my family’s hair is naturally thin, not all of us have thin hair but it do. My natural hair texture is very soft it curls and friz. My hair is currently relaxed. I love my hair but my hairdresser keeps cutting. When i extend my relaxing time she literally cut off my hair but when i keep to my usual time she clips and i wont see the difference. I have growing hair but it feels like their always one length. What to do?

  • Dianah said:

    hy am starting my hair journey today and i pray i get my hair to waist length

  • Alaishia said:

    Hi my name is Alaishia, I’m 14 years old. My hair used to be collarbone length until it was cut; I have tried everything- from going natural (which didn’t work out so well) to perms. I have really thick hair but I just want my long hair back. However, I went natural and I had a lot of split ends so, my hair is now up to my neck. How can I get my hair to grow evenly without damage.

  • Aliyah said:

    Hi Brenda, I have a question on how to grow my hair waist length I
    Currently transitioning my hair I haven’t permed my hair in 7 months now. However I am experiencing a lot of breakage I got to my stylist every 2 weeks and I use Argan oil and just recently started using eucalyptus oil. Can u please give me some tips on how to grow my transitioning hair to waist length.

  • Chi said:

    Hi,want to know what I can do for uneven hair growth and what hair product can u recommend for stubborn hair

  • Abby said:

    Hi, I put my hair in a medium sized puff every day but after mid-September Had my first perm, I didn’t retouch and it’s now Febuary My hair has only grown about 1/4 inch I wash once a week and deep condition once a week I grease and comb out every other day and my hair still won’t budge, it used to be very long But after blow drys and straightens it got very short, Please advise on what i just do

  • Precious said:

    Hi my hair is neck length and I just started researching how to grow long hair and i have been waiting like FOREVER to grow my hair . I have relaxed hair and I usually get extensions leaving it for about 3-6 month .
    I don’t know what I am doing wrong pls help me.

  • ayzoula said:

    I am from Africa and I’ve trying to grow my hair,I relaxe my hair maybe after 3 or 4 months it does grow but my problem is that I can feel that my hair is very dry and I dont know which product to use to keep my hair moisturized without it being too moisturized (like butter if you know what I mean) HELP!!!

  • nathaliya said:

    i relaxed my curly hair its look really ugly can u let me know how to grow my hair fast .this is the first time of mine relaxing hair .

  • uyi said:

    Hi, my hair line is literally running to the back of my head,literally. What can I do to get my hairline back

  • zulaihat said:

    hey, am a Nigerian I have tried a lot of homemade remedies including onion to wash my hair but still my hair is still above my chin, its not growing and keeps falling out, can u pls help me out

  • Kiara said:

    I have a question what if you have split ends and you don’t want to cut your hair what do you do?

  • Kiara said:

    Also I want to get gold highlights but I’m afraid my hair will fall out will it?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Not if you take care of it. You can’t relax on hair care if you have both a relaxer and an invasive color treatment.

  • Tatty said:

    Good tips

  • Ruth said:

    Hi , I wanted to ask what is the difference between african , european and asian hair and why european people’s hair grows longer than ethnic hair .

  • annstacia hinds said:

    hi I have relaxed my hair approximately a year and four months now and decided to go back natural but I am in the decision of either cutting or growing it out. please help

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      HI Annstacia,

      If you don’t mind short hair, then cut it off and start afresh. If you are not too into it then grow it out.

  • monifa said:

    Hi,Is it ok to keep my hair set for the entire week? I really dont like brushing or coming my hair much. Wen I wash it I simply smooth on the castor oil and keep it set until it is due to wash again, which is a week after

  • monifa said:

    And I would like to know which castor oil is better. The black one or the pharmaceutical one. I use the black one to hot oil treat my hair and the pharmaceutical one to seal moisture into my hair since it is easier to use on relaxed hair

  • Shelby said:

    Hi great tips! I have seen a healthier change in my hair due to the products I used. My hair has been growing longer and has been more moist?? I use a lot of olive oil and jasmine oil! Any tips how to use these products better?
    Just want to speed my Afro hair growth up oh and fish oils also give natural resources and vitamins your hair needs

  • Crystal said:

    Hi Brenda I use castor oil/carrot oil to steam my hair weekly. I moisturize and seal every other night. No matter what I do my ends still look flaky and lack luster/shine. I use natural products, I even cut the flaky ends off at one point but the hair keeps growing back with that look. I drink about 2 liters of water daily. I do not overlap my relaxer. What else can I do? Please help me.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Crystal,

      Have you tried putting on your moisturizer and then putting a plastic bag, shower cap (something plastic) over the ends of your hair. It should give the hair a steam effect, if it is damp in the morning seal with an oil Try this for a couple weeks and see if it helps.

  • grace said:

    my hair is relaxed and I want to grow it up to my back, could u give me some short quick tips.

  • Natalie said:

    I’ve recently dyed my hair,while conditioning and combing through I lost almost half of my hair,I’m so shocked and unhappy with the state of my hair now..what you think is best to do

  • Urmy said:

    Thanx for da tips i hope my hair will cope to these tips

  • Urmy said:

    Hi, my hair ar really giving me a hard tym coz they ar falling also my front hairs are plucking out i look lk i had a cut so plz help me out

  • Dainty said:

    Am a Nigerian,I have got a damaged hair and I really do want it to grow longer and fuller but it keeps breaking….. Can u help me out?

  • daina said:

    Hi I used to have very pretty hair when I was small and my mom permed it and it got shorter and I want to grow back my hair but my dad is going to want to perm it what should I do

  • ammie said:


    I’ve been getting relaxers for years now. My hair used to be down to my collarbones. Unfortunately, I had to get about half of it cut off a few years ago because of heat damage. It has grown since then, but it’s like it won’t grow past the bottom of my neck. What’s the deal? Any ideas would help

  • Phyllis said:

    Hi can you tell me what’s the difference between pre poo and deep condition?

  • tope said:

    My hair is dry and its over relaxed pls what do I use I need hair

  • carratin said:

    Hi my hair broke off from me getting extension braids and I’m now getting tracks in my head for it to grow back. Will tracks help my hair grow back ? And how long will it take I’m only 14

  • Kenn zee said:

    Hi brenda,I want to know what products (in name) are good for keeping relaxed hair healthy i am 15 and is obessed with thick shoulder lenght hair so plz answer me i beg of you

  • Mansi said:

    Hi I am 13 years old my hair was waist length long but I. Got some splitends and I cut my hair till shoulders. How can I grow my hair fast in 2 months?please help me.

  • Mansi said:

    Hi I am 13 years old my hair was waist length long but I. Got some splitends and I cut my hair till shoulders. How can I grow my hair fast in 2 months?please help me.Brenda can u help me quickly.

  • Lia said:

    Hi my hair is short it keeps breaking off especially when I braid it i try so much stuff to stop it but it just do not work can u help me?

  • sarah ademola said:

    Thanks sooooooooooooooooo much, but I plait my hair, ow can I deep condition every week, and I hope plaiting of my hair helps too.

  • imelda ugbe said:

    pls I do have a very stubborn hair,it grows but the growth is really slow.. been on neck length for over two years

  • Dede said:

    Hi Brenda I have an important question. If I deep condition everyweek and do oil treatments then I cant straighten my hair or put it in braids?so would I leave my hair natural for a while and stick to ponytails? I just don’t like that because my hair is shoulder length. Any hair style suggestions?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Dede,

      I am assuming your hair is relaxed. Why wouldn’t you be able to wear it straight if you deep condition every week?
      Braids are another matter, you will have to figure out a way to moisturize your hair under the braids. Maybe spritz with water and weak conditioner on a regular basis?
      I really can’t make any suggestions without more info.

  • Latrice said:

    Hello. So recently i had the big chop to go natural. My hair is growing but i am so tired of all the maintenance that comes with my hair. It is very cirlt and hard to straighten so ive been thinking about going back to relaxers. Is doing that goung to effext its growth? And is it worth it? If it is what advice do you have for growing out relaxed hair??

    • Brenda Barrett said:


      Have you thought about embracing your curls instead of straightening your hair? Maybe you can straighten occasionally but look into ways to wear your hair curly. There are a few low maintenance styles like the wash and go that does not require that much attention. Try it and see. I personally would not go back to relaxers after getting the big chop. I wouldn’t think it is worth it. The advice for growing long relaxed hair is above.
      All the best.

  • Kirsty said:

    Hi! Your articles are wonderful x My 12 year old daughter Sharna wants to grow out her hair but its relaxed and healthy. Shes recomended cutting it and starting over fresh and says she wants to have nice health hair by age 16. What do you recommend?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Kirsty,
      Thank you. That sounds like a good idea if she can work with the shorter hair length for a while. By 16 her hair will be long again.

  • Sheldia said:

    Hi I had a twa so I permed it and I want my hair to grow Long but i dont have patience Someone Please Help

  • Lily_Liyah said:

    Hi. My hair is a mixture of Nigerian, Jamaican and a bit of Indian. It’s thick and it’s long (its at my mid-forearms). I want it to be waist-length.
    My hair never seems to grow much. It has breakage problems…i cut it every 3 months. I don’t know what to do.

  • Justamara said:

    I don’t think you should use heat because that is the reason why my hair is breaking. I think you should always try to avoid heat but if it is necessary you should use a heat protector.

  • Amaka said:

    Wel.Guys My Hair Is shoulder Length Nd Its Nt Up To Two Yrs..I Use Oliv Oil Nd Shea Buttes As My Haircream

  • Tamaira said:

    What vitamins or pills can i take that is good for my hair and won’t brake me out or anything like that?

  • Tanneh williams said:

    I have been preming my hair over many years now,but I my hair no longer relaxing. Whenever I premium it,it gets more rough and I don’t know why. Pls help me out.

  • Tanneh williams said:

    My hair does not relax anymore. I am someone who perms hair regularly and my hair often relax but my hair is no longer relaxing. I need help pls

  • gbemmy said:

    hey I’m a Nigerian I relax my hair but it is not growing and my hair is really dry and some parts of my hair are shorter than the others please help. What can I do to make my hair longer and I Dont want to trim my hair

  • Orchids said:

    Lovely posts. My hair is bra length. It grows but it sheds a whole lot and therefore stays at the same length. Its like the new growth are a waste cos once i retouch, alot comes out. Its so frustrating. I do hair regimes. What am i doing wrong. I consume lots of water. The issue i have is shedding not growth.

  • Toluwase said:

    Hi brenda, I am a Nigerian,my hair is dry,thin and also relaxed. My hair is not up to my shoulders. I really want my hair to be long and healthy,please help me

  • lass said:

    hey, nice write up there, my hair is full nd long but its relaxed, av tried a couple of remedies ranging from shampoo to honey just to retain its length bt i wanna go natural without hair breakage, is dah possible??

  • Lydia said:

    hi Brenda
    I am relaxed and I want retain length,if I wear braids and weave often will it damage my relaxed hair or help retain length?

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