How To Grow Waist Length Relaxed Hair

This was a phrase that I would search for in my early days of researching about hair because I so wanted to grow my hair to lengths that I never had. I picked up some very important tips and tricks along the way that I want to share with you. When beginning your long hair journey, remember these step-by-step instructions. Please note that everybody’s hair differs. Some of these steps may seem strange at first, but they will be beneficial in the long run.

  1. Cut your hairCut my hair? Yes, cut it. Whether your hair is natural or relaxed if you have split raggedy ends, you need to give your hair a nice trim before you start out. If it is uneven and ragged or some strands are longer than others just cut it. Split ends can never be repaired, they just keep on splitting up to the hair root. Just cut them off. Hair grows an average six inches per year, you will get back some of it this year if you treat your hair right.
  2. Extend your relaxing session. If you used to relax your hair every ten weeks, extend it to twelve. You will have to learn how to embrace your two textures by using moisture and inventive hair styles. The important thing to note is that the longer your natural hair growth is the better it is for processing without overlapping the processing of your new growth and your previously relaxed hair.
  3. Start going natural. Not back to your natural hair if that is not something that you want to do but back to natural products. This might prove to be the best thing that you ever do for your hair. Petroleum, mineral oil and similar products do not promote hair growth. Natural products like carrot, molasses, eggs and natural oils can be better alternatives than the stuff that you get in bottles.
  4. Dump fine tooth combs and hard brushes. Chuck them in the trash, anything that can snag your ends will do your hair little good.
  5. Use only those products that are proven to work for you. Through trial and error many of us have come to discover certain products that we can’t do without. If they make your hair silkier and softer, why switch or experiment? Chuck the rest that are cluttering your cupboard, remember less is more.
  6. Deep condition hair with heat every week. This used to be somewhat of a bother for me but it works. Find a good deep conditioner with protein and moisture balance and do it every week. You will see the difference after three or so weeks.
  7. Stop shampooing your hair with commercial shampoos. Lather rinse repeat cannot be your mantra for black hair. Not all shampoos are created equal, some of them contain harmful chemicals and toxins that will strip hair and cause excess dryness. The ones that sud the most are the worst. Use regular conditioner to wash your hair instead, find a sulphate free shampoo or make your own hair products.
  8. Relax. I am serious, do not be so stressed out, it will make your hair fall out (stress hair loss). I had a friend who used to follow every hair tip I told her but her hair would still not budge. Then she got rid of her headache-inducing man and her hair began to grow like a weed.
  9. Hair Food. Try to eat those foods which will enhance hair growth and retention. Some of them are foods which contain protein and iron, along with a well balanced diet, you are on the right track. Do not take so-called hair supplements from just any company. If you eat right and exercise you do not need to take supplements at all.
  10. Water. Drink plenty of water it is like tonic to your hair, it is great to moisturize the hair from within.

Employ all of these ten steps and you will have your waist length hair. Hair grows an average of ¼ inch to ½ inch per month. It is up to you to retain this hair growth through healthy hair practices.


  • Tash said:

    Great information I will pass this on to my daughter….she has a goal to grow her hair.

  • jody said:

    hope this works for me i have been trying like…… foreveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrr

  • taymoi said:

    My hair it’s uneven lengths. Do you guys have any good tips for that?

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Taymoi,
      We have the same issue too! There are some things you can do to rectify this you can cut all your hair until it is at an even length and then keep shaping it up, or wait until the shorter pieces are at a length that you find acceptable and then cut the longer pieces to that level.

  • Gloria said:

    Am a nigerian girl, wishing to have a fuller and also a long hair, my hair is scanty and also breaking. What’s the remedy.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hey Gloria, welcome, you’ve come to the right place. Maybe you should start at the hair regimen section and click on shedding/breaking.

  • edima said:

    hi cani i was wondering if i can do a pre poo after a hot oil treatment and also after the pre poo i can use the vinigar to wash it out

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Edima,

      Pre-poo simply means before you shampoo. For some people a hot oil treatment is a pre-poo. Yes you can use diluted apple cider vinegar to rinse out the hair after a pre-poo.

  • J said:

    Hi, I have been reading all your post. I’m looking for a new way to treat my hair to make it grow longer and healthier like when I was younger. I’m changing my diet and exercise, treatments, but over 5 months it just doesn’t grow. What is your view on birth control and hair growth because I think that might be the problem?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi J,
      Are you sure that your hair has not moved even a 1/4 inch in 5 months? Is it breaking? There are some birth control medications that can cause hair loss and thinning, I am not aware of it causing hair to just not grow. I have an article on here about causes of thinning hair and breakage Thinning Hair Causes. Give your hair some time to adjust to the new things you are doing because even positive changes like a better or different diet and even exercise can throw off your hair cycle a bit.

  • zanny said:

    hi my hair is uneven and very dry. my hair use to be long but i losted it i dont understand what im doing wrong. its a new year and i want my long hair back!please help

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Zanny,
      I am sorry to hear about this. You can start by looking at the regimens and see if they are any help to you. There are lots of resources on the site to help you.

  • Rose said:

    H, Im Rose my hair is damaged from heat, and i would like to know is it best to blow dry my hair with a a hand blow dryer or with a hood blow dryer thanks .

  • aashlei said:

    Hi, i want to grow my relaxed to my waist or like to inches above. My hair is at bra strap length But my hair seems to shed more than i think it should so it grows but the sheding makes it where it stays at one length.

  • Azy said:

    Hi Brenda,

    i trim my hair the same day after i relax my hair that is after every 3 months but it tends to get dry and kinky after the first wash. i condition my hair with mayonnaise treatment after evry 2 weeks but it doesnt have that lusture am looking for…….please help.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Azy,
      There are a few things that can give you luster and sheen: Hot oil treatments, Hair Butters, Rinsing with Apple Cider Vinegar as your last rinse after a conditioner, Rinsing with Teas.

      • Azy said:

        i have been using olive, coconut and castor oil as a hot oil treatment as we don’t have peppermint and eucalyptus oil in Mombasa. is the end product supposed to be shiny hair only? my hair is now growing abit faster than before and my hair colour is changing from reddish brown to a darker reddish brown

  • Azy said:

    Hi Brenda,

    i have been using olive, coconut and castor oil as a hot oil treatment as we don’t have peppermint and eucalyptus oil in Mombasa. is the end product supposed to be shiny hair only? my hair is now growing abit faster than before and my hair colour is changing from reddish brown to a darker reddish brown.

  • shantel said:

    Hi brenda my name is shantel im 15 and i.would really love your advice if you dont mibd see here ive been trying to grow my hair out for along time beauticians email addresses and ive tried everything my hair is bra strap lengthh bu t i want it to get waist length can you.please please please help me out by emaling me and telling me or advising me with tips and advice i would really love it my email adress is gracias sooo much

  • melanie said:

    Brenda I av a problem with my hairline,its receding.what home remedies can u give coz my hair is relaxed.and what advice can u offer me,is it OK if I switch from doing chemical relaxers to natural or homemade relaxers? Liz help me

  • Trisha said:

    I have to attain a marriage after 2 months, and I need my hair to be little thick and long till waist level, I don’t use oil so can you give me a easy way to do everything..

  • gracie said:

    Pls dear, I just don’t want to cut my hair , I have a thick hair but my back hair has refused to grow longer but my middle hair is long, I started massaging the back of my head yesterday, will it help? I need my back hair back!!!

  • Shayla said:

    I have been natural for 4 1/2 years… As of this month I had waist length hair and just recently did a cut back to in between mid back length and waist length because I totally got lazy and stopped treating my hair right and it broke off in the middle back of my head… smh… I love your list of do’s and don’ts but do not forget protective styling. Bunning my hair worked well for me and using coconut oil to protect my hair (especially the ends) as well… I am headed back to my old length by hopefully April 2014…. Check out my profile pic…. I love your hair!!!! Great post!!!!

  • gracey said:

    hi brenda
    how do u take care of a short hair at d back of my scalp and a longer one at d middle. if i should cut of d longer ones to d length of d shorter ones, how long will it take for me to get a shoulder length hair?

  • isioma said:

    Hi, i relaxed my hair just last month and now my hair is now very hard and dirty and also although my hair is almost shoulder length but the front and back are becoming scanty, Just the middle is getting longer.pls what do i do?

  • Genny said:

    I stopped texturizing and relaxing my hair for a long while because I was trying to go natural but I really don’t want to cut a lot of my hair so what do I do to help my hair grow faster

  • jumoke said:

    Thanks a lot! I’ve been trying to grow my hair with a shampoo that lathers a lot. So gonna change it today :)

  • jumoke said:

    By the way, I wanted to know what my weekly schedule for conditioning and shampooing should be like (including deep conditoining) if I have moderate dry hair

  • jas said:

    My bf already was mad the first time I cut my hair, and when it started to grown I permed my hair again. Should I really cut it or should I just put individuals in it for this winter and treat it with castor, coconut, and oilive oil, I also am about to start joining my fruits and vegetables to make sure I get all the nutrient I need I researched and it said u gotta be healthy on the in for it to show on the out

  • tisha said:

    I have a relaxer and my hair is uneven I never cutted my hair before is there a way I can do something else besides cutting it I don’t fell comfortable cutting it

  • Ashley said:

    Hey my question is do you think my hair will be able to grow if I just cut it real short and wore sew in cause my hair used to get straighten and it was a nice length thick and healthy I decided to go get a relaxer everything was fine till I got a new hair dresser I think she used an strong relaxer in my hair and damage it since then I went back to straightening and using pantene shampoo and conditioner and it seems like it still haven’t grown and it been over 6years now my hair thin and it grows so far and stops or just get back short and grow back to the short length..HELP!!! What

  • Tawanna said:

    Hi, my family’s hair is naturally thin, not all of us have thin hair but it do. My natural hair texture is very soft it curls and friz. My hair is currently relaxed. I love my hair but my hairdresser keeps cutting. When i extend my relaxing time she literally cut off my hair but when i keep to my usual time she clips and i wont see the difference. I have growing hair but it feels like their always one length. What to do?

  • Dianah said:

    hy am starting my hair journey today and i pray i get my hair to waist length

  • Alaishia said:

    Hi my name is Alaishia, I’m 14 years old. My hair used to be collarbone length until it was cut; I have tried everything- from going natural (which didn’t work out so well) to perms. I have really thick hair but I just want my long hair back. However, I went natural and I had a lot of split ends so, my hair is now up to my neck. How can I get my hair to grow evenly without damage.

  • Aliyah said:

    Hi Brenda, I have a question on how to grow my hair waist length I
    Currently transitioning my hair I haven’t permed my hair in 7 months now. However I am experiencing a lot of breakage I got to my stylist every 2 weeks and I use Argan oil and just recently started using eucalyptus oil. Can u please give me some tips on how to grow my transitioning hair to waist length.

  • Chi said:

    Hi,want to know what I can do for uneven hair growth and what hair product can u recommend for stubborn hair

  • Abby said:

    Hi, I put my hair in a medium sized puff every day but after mid-September Had my first perm, I didn’t retouch and it’s now Febuary My hair has only grown about 1/4 inch I wash once a week and deep condition once a week I grease and comb out every other day and my hair still won’t budge, it used to be very long But after blow drys and straightens it got very short, Please advise on what i just do

  • Precious said:

    Hi my hair is neck length and I just started researching how to grow long hair and i have been waiting like FOREVER to grow my hair . I have relaxed hair and I usually get extensions leaving it for about 3-6 month .
    I don’t know what I am doing wrong pls help me.

  • Tatty said:

    Good tips

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