What is the Secret to Having Long Thick Relaxed Hair? Part Two

This is part two of an article on how to have long relaxed hair. We continue with five more secrets to having long thick relaxed hair. For many ladies these are just common sense suggestions. However, if  you were like me you will use and implement every useful tip.

  1. Oils– Not all oils are meant to be used in our hair. Our hair is a natural extension of our bodies; hence we should use oils that are natural. That is my theory and I am sticking to it. If I can’t eat it for food or use on skin, I am not putting it in my hair. So oils like coconut, oil, castor, jojoba are good oils. Bad oils include petroleum and mineral oil. Oils are used to seal in moisture, hence, if your hair is not already moist using bad oils will in fact seal out moisture. The prescription is to use moisture first then oil. I will explain more in oils vs. moisturizers.
  2. Heat– The use of heat is usually the downfall of many a glorious mane. Heat can do several things to hair, one of them is to dry it out , the other is to straighten. If your hair is already chemically straightened, constantly using direct heat on it will cause breakage. The frequent use of curling irons, flat irons or dryers can cause hair to be brittle and ultimately lead to hair loss.
  3. Your Diet– You have probably heard the adage, you are what you eat, well its true. There are some foods that will enhance hair growth and some that will impede it. Even though your hair grows at an average six inches per year, you can experience unexplained breakage and lose it all, if your diet is not good. There are some persons who go on unbalanced diets, or switch their diet and the first thing that goes is their hair.
    There are others who do not drink enough water and are so dehydrated that their hair start shedding. To have good hair growth, you have to eat relatively well. There are some persons who swear by vitamin supplements and other things but I believe that if you eat a balanced diet your hair will grow long and healthy.
  4. Weaves and Hair Pieces– I understand that sometimes it is necessary to wear wigs or weaves for conditions like cancer or bald spots or even a special occasion when you have no idea what to do with your hair, but wearing these things daily can affect your hair growth negatively. Why not learn how to take care of your own hair and wear it with pride. Weaves and hair pieces that are sewn into or attached to real hair with glue are a real hair killer, bits of your real hair are lost when they are attached or removed. Who can forget the shocking pictures of Naomi Campbell’s sparse hair side when the breeze blew her wig up. There was no hair under there!  Isn’t it better to rock your own healthy waist length hair than resorting to attaching someone’s mane.
  5. Combs and Brush– This is where many persons have an issue. They do all the right things and yet they have a fine tooth comb with notches at the base scraping away their vulnerable hair strands. The best combs are the large toothed combs with no grooves at the base to snag hair. The best brushes are soft bristle brushes that will not pull or snag hair. The best thing to do is to never brush your hair. It serves no purpose for black hair except to give you a pre-mature thinning of the ends. Never, ever brush your ends.

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  • alexandra said:

    Hey
    i remember you had a article about cowashing. I looking through the archives but I can’t find it.

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Alexandra,
      It is certainly mentioned alot on this site, especially in the hair regimen section, but I can’t think of an article that addresses co-washing exclusively. I am going to add that to the list of articles for March.

  • Crystal said:

    Firstly, I would like to say that it is so refreshing to have such a well-written article about relaxed hair!
    I am currently trying to grow my relaxed hair but find the ends are very weak, thin and split constantly, regardless of how often I trim them. Do you have any tips for this?
    Also, I have been toying with the idea of colouring my hair red, is this something I should steer clear of if I’m trying to grow my hair?
    Thank you in advance.

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Crystal,
      There are tons of articles on here that can help you with your hair end issues, because the ends are the oldest part of the hair they are more susceptible to applied heat, hair style choices etc. You can start with this one How To Achieve Healthy Hair Ends
      I want to color my hair red too :) but I am going to do it with henna- which is also a conditioner and will not harm your hair. There are other dyes with added conditioners that are not very taxing on your hair, maybe you should check out the ‘semi-permanent’ solutions on the market and color a small patch of hair first and see how it goes before you color all your hair.

  • Jacky said:

    i’m trying to start texlaxing my hair. I know it’s bad but because I cant handle my coarse hair, but i put in weaves for about 2 and a half months and leave my hair out for 2 weeks before i relax. but i don’t like the limpness of my hair after relaxing because i’m very used to my thick coarse hair. Do i have to start texlaxing myself and if so, which products do you recommend?

    • Brenda said:

      Jackie I will answer that question shortly and thoroughly in an upcoming article.

  • mary said:

    Mineral oil has gotten a bad rap because there are many people such as myself who thrive on them. The same goes for sew ins. It’s about application and knowing yourself and your hair…..

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Mary,
      Mineral oil has gotten a bad rap, not because it will break your hair by itself but because of the nature of its properties. It is usually used as a sealant, it blocks moisture from entering the hair. Whilst this may be a good thing if your hair is thoroughly moisturized or you want to maintain a straight non-frizzy do in humid weather, the problem with mineral oil is that can only be removed from the hair by a surfactant such as sulfate, and you will need to remove the mineral oil in order to moisturize your hair afresh (it is such a good sealer because it hates water, simply using water will not remove mineral oil from your strands). Prolonged use of mineral oil will cause the hair to dry out overtime without replenishing your hair’s moisture, this can lead to breakage. If you wash your hair with a surfactant like sulfate every other day it will strip your hair of its natural oils, which will cause breakage in the long run. So though technically mineral oil is not by itself a bad thing, it can lead to dryness and breakage.

      Sew-ins are another matter, my personal opinion is that you can take care of your own hair to look just as good or even better than sew-ins etc.

  • Madison said:

    Hi! I’m 12 year old girl of “color” and I am in desperate need for advice. You really seem to know what you’re doing, and what have I got to loose (besides more hair and sleep).

    I got my hair relaxed a year and a half ago. Skip ahead. My hair started breaking on my right side because of ponytails, laziness, and the wrong products. I really want to grow it back, and fast. I’m going to get it trimmed next week for school, and I washed it about 2 weeks ago. I just need to know how can I grow it back, and what products do I use? I used to oil my scalp and hair weekly until I found out the grease I was using contains petrolatum and mineral oil as the top ingredients, so I stopped. What do I use now? What about for shampoo and conditioner? Please help :'( I’m trying to keep it moisturized but I don’t know what to use!

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Madison,
      You made me smile. There is no need to lose sleep or anymore hair for that matter. I would recommend that you start with this article http://blackhair101.com/hair-regimen/hair-regimen-for-relaxed-hair. There is also a hair regimen for shedding and breaking hair—http://blackhair101.com/hair-care/typical-hair-regimen-for-breaking-hair. These are really step by step regimens to help you get started. There are also product recommendations listed. Moisturizers are also listed there. I hope the articles helped. If not, let me know.

      • maureen said:

        Hi, I’m trying to grow my edges back after i believe 3yrs or 4 yrs ago. I let someone convince me that once the morning glory was put on ,that my hair wouldn’t come out welll… it did and it was my edges and i have been using coconut oil, jojoba doo groo products to help me to grow them back now for a yr now and only one side has shown improvement. How do i help both sides + longer length and thickness all around…. impatiently dying 4 longer hair that I had after giving birth this time w/out the baby or maybe lol???

  • Lauren said:

    I love your article! My hair has grown so much(at least
    5.5 inches while braided and sewed in for about a year) and I get a relaxed every 6 months or so. Most hair regiments encourage you to go natural and I do not think that it is necessary. What are some protective styles that you recommend for relaxed hair?

  • kellie said:

    Hi, my hair is thinning and very uneven. I went natural for a year and got frustrated with not finding the right products so I relaxed my hair. So I back at step one. My hair is actually worst before I went natural. What should I do first to get my hair thicker.

  • shari said:

    I really want to try the extending between the time i creme my hair but when my new growth is out i don’t want it to look too bad plus my hair is in a short style that kind of exposes the back so hiding it there at the back is going to be a bit difficult …

  • Shekinah said:

    How do you keep the hair semi smoothed down without combing it??? Also, what are good moisturizers to use one the hair??? Thanx! Love the article!

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Shekinah,
      Combing is fine with a wide toothed comb. Brushing is the problem. To keep it smooth you can use a boar bristle brush or a brush that will not snag the hair and drag it. Test it on your skin first, if it is too harsh then don’t use it on your hair.

  • Brittany said:

    i straighten my hair alot i just want to know what the best moisturizer for staightened hair and the best moisturizer if i have curly hair. Thank you

  • jondrielle said:

    Why cant we brush the ends because im trying to grow my hair and i always brush my ends and i would like to know why?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Jondrielle,
      Your ends are the driest, oldest, weakest part of your hair. If your brush is coarse, the type that can pull your hair and cause little tears along the shaft. The ends will be the first part of the hair to snap or break.

  • erline said:

    hey Brenda!

    so I have a couple of questions & concerns about my hair. my hair is relaxed & has been for about 6-7 years now & my hair has been doin’ well with growth, thickness, & strength. I always went to a salon to get my hair washed by someone else & permed by someone else. I’ve even had my hair reach past my shoulders, mid-back cause its been doin’ so well. but since I went off to college ’bout a year and a half ago I’ve struggled with maintaining my hair the way it was. I tried to do the same things like the person who does my hair does & I’ve used the same products they use too. but my hair has gotten shorter, a bit thinner, and a bit uneven. is this because I’ve been doin’ it by myself & not having a professional doin’ it? or am I doin’ somethin’ wrong? is there a strategic way to get my hair back to the length it was without a professionals help? because where I go to school, there’s no one I know that can take care of black hair.

    also i was thinking about wearing braids a little bit to reconstruct my hair & letting it grow out some. is this a bad idea since I’m trying to get my hair back to its normal length?

  • Lilly said:

    hi so I wash my hair only like every 4 weeks is that a good or bad thing. and only get my hair relaxed every couple pf months. also what types of olive oil products could I make at home such as conditioners,shampoo,or hair pastes that would be good for my hair?

  • Sahana said:

    Hey Brenda

    My hair is quite thin, i use coconut oil,the wide comb and drink lots of water.I have black hair and when it’s down it reaches a little below my shoulder. It doesn’t get dry that much but it is thin, how can I make it stronger and thicker with using hair spray?

  • Nidareha said:

    Hey, im 13 years old and I got a realaxer perm in august and now its november so I am afraid if I put another one in it it will fall out.

  • symara said:

    Hi Brenda I love your article by the way is very informative!1
    I was wondering how long do you think it would take for damaged relaxed hair that has been breaking from inadequate moisture would take for it to recover. I have shoulder length very thick relaxed hair and I never really moisturized (other than conditioner) for years. So now I have been doing a hair journey for like 2 months and the hair is still breaking and its driving me crazy! I use ORS deep conditioner and apply African pride hair oil. I also use infusium 23 for protein. I also haven’t straightened my hair. What else do I need to stop it from breaking?

  • symara said:

    Also do you personally experience breakage with your long healthy relaxed hair, is it just a factor you can’t avoid with relaxed hair?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Symara,

      I personally have experienced breakage, especially when I do not do things the right way or my lifestyle becomes stressful or I slip and use too much heat or wear my hair in a hairstyle that pulls the hair constantly or I eat too much junk or I am just plain negligent. You can cut down on the breakage with your relaxed or natural hair by doing the right things consistently. It’s not just about the hair but how you treat your body on a whole.

  • Rebecca said:

    I’m 13 about to be 14 in May. I had thick coarse hair. I permed it on June then permed it again On December. I comb my hair with the wide toothed comb. To avoid breakage but My hair still breaks a lot, I condition/ deep condition my hair. I really don’t shampoo much. My hair is still thick but, It doesn’t look alive like it used to. I have never gotten a trim before. I had nice thick strings of hair. Now it’s just thin and straw-like. I don’t know what to do. My hair is shoulder lenght,I really don’t any good shampoos to use. I use TRESemmé & Suave are those good products to use on my hair. I started using organic coconut oil on my hair. I really don’t wrap my hair to go to sleep. I sometimes put extra virgin olive oil on my hair. Can I use gel n my hair? there are a lot of things I want to do to my hair. But I just don’t even know where to start. I stopped wearing weave on hair. I would wear it like once every 2 years,but that’s it. I don’t flat my iron my hair just the front-my side bang- and the front is actually the place that has a lot of life. the middle of my head is so short and dead, dry & lifeless, I put all types of moistures but it doesn’t work. I want to die my hair, but I don’t want something that’s gonna damage my hair even more… I need help with my hair cause I don’t know what to do anymore with it.

  • Kalain said:

    I have been natural for the last 20 years but I honestly did not follow the natural hair craze that’s been developing recently. I relaxed my hair recently and as expected my scalp was super sensitive, the relaxer did not stay long before I had to rinse it out.
    what I have noticed is that some portions of my hair ends are still ‘au naturale’ and its getting quite annoying when I style my hair.
    what should I do with these ends? will it be safe to relax them over again, when I got for my next touch up? Or will my relaxed ends suffer for it and begin falling out?

  • Sherieka' said:

    Hey; I am 13 years old and I have relaxed hair. One side of My hair is shorter than the other; what do I do? I also wanted to know if drawstring pony tails are a form of protective styling. Thanks In advance.

  • Sherieka' said:

    Does gel cause breakage ?

  • Tiana said:

    Hi Brenda,
    I’ve had a relaxer since I was about 9 years old. My hair has always gone a little past my shoulder however since my sophomore year of high school the back of my hair has broken off to just barely passing my neck, mom thinks heat damage from curling it caused the breakage. Its slowly growing back but I was just wondering what I could do to help it grow faster, I’m a freshmen in college so I get a touch up from my mom when I go home.
    Thanks!

  • Marsha said:

    Hello, Brenda!
    I’m a 14year old girl living in Tanzania.
    I would like to know is Henna good for thickening the hair or will it break it all off???
    And is Biotin good or bad for hair growth???
    Thank you in advance….I love your articles, Mashallah!

  • Leah said:

    Do you have a personal email where I can send you some pics of what happened to my hair this past weekend?? I seriously need some help please

  • Jessica said:

    Hi!, I’m Jessica and I have relaxed hair! I have split ends,so I plan on trimming it tomorrow. I also plan on doing a hot oil treatment. Do I trim my hair, do the hot oil treatment, then wash it?? Please help me! Respond ASAP.

  • Clair said:

    Hi, the past few years I’ve straightened my hair constantly and died it but after I put hair dye on my hair started tingling and then 3 months later clumps fell out, now I have a receding hairline at front and sides. I’m a white female with curly hair and my scalp now doesn’t produce any oil and it’s always dry, how can I get back my thinning hair and fill in my receding hairline?

  • Evita said:

    Hi, I am fifteen years old and would like to grow atleast mid-back length hair bymy 17th birthday for prom. I live in the Caribbean and my hair grows and but recently my hair has been thining. I cut my ends which I swore I wouldn’t cut but believe my hair thinned because I was sick at the time. Now I realize my hair is growing and looks thicker , though I haven’t done it yet but I have realized that I have always had fine hair. I was wondering what you thought about texlaxing since my hair is relaxed straight , but it still move and is quite soft until its around the 6 week time mark. I have learnt to balanced my hairs pro&moist so it will be soft but I really want thick hair and have done my research and found that texlaxing actually gives you thicker result while keeping texture and helping you achieve curls and straight hair easier and that it is also healthier. I would like your opinion on this because i am tired of having long hair which isn’t thick enough to make beautiful stills like my friends who have shorter hair than me .Thank you.

  • Christine said:

    Hi. My name is Christine. Am a Nigerian and i need help seriously with my thinning hair and dissappering front hair-line.

  • Charlie said:

    Hi there – so if oil is not moisture & the good oils you mention are to seal in moisture, then what should I moisturize with? And also – no brushing, but what about a natural board hair bristle brush? Still
    no good? Thanks x

  • Belise said:

    Dear Brenda ,
    Thank you so much for this info. I have short relaxed hair and I wanna grow it out to shoulder length. You suggest to stay away from flat irons but it is hard to keep short hair styles without using flat irons or to stay more than 8 weeks without a relaxer. Any hair care regimen you can recommend? Also, I can’t seem to find the right products for my hair. My hair gets dry quickly with any product I’ve used in the past. I’ve tried using coconut oil but it seems as tho it makes my hair dry and hard. I bought all the natural oil such as jojoba oil, castor oil, olive oil, shea butter, and coconut oil but my hair is still dry. I am not sure if I am using the oils right or if I am missing something.Any brand suggestions for moisturizers and conditioners? Any tips and suggestions will greatly be appreciated. Thank you.

  • roselyn said:

    Hi Brenda.. I love your article :) uhm I’m inspired to grow out my hair thanks to your lucious mane.. buh I have a problem, I’ve been suffering from alocepia for a long time and it’s the most embarrassing thing I have to live with. Is there anything I can do about it cus I’m freaking out, I’m tired of weaves and stuffs. Pls ur suggestions would be highly appreciated. 😀 encourage a sister

  • sha said:

    Hi. Thank u so much for your tips. I have very thick Michelle Obama type of relaxed hair that I’m trying to grow out. My hair is very pretty but it sheds and break all the time. My hair is also in varies lengths. The back is pass my neck the front in nose length and the middle ear length. I don’t know what to do. Can got oil treatments help me? Thank you for your response. Godbless u

  • lala said:

    I am trying to stretch my hair to at least four months, on three months now. However, I am considering doing a sew in weave to help me reach that four month goal. In your article sew in’s are a no no but other articles on retaining length speak of using protective styles (minimum handling of your own hair). What is an alternative to putting a sew in weave or braids if you are trying to stretch relaxed hair while trying to do low manipulation? Thanks,

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Lala,

      There are several low manipulation styles that you can wear without resorting to a weave, like braid outs, twist outs, straw sets and other curly styles that can blend your two textures. Experiment with some of them, tiny/medium straw sets last forever (well, all week) and it gives you the chance to moisturize your hair at will. Moisture is an issue when you put in sew ins. Your real hair doesn’t get a chance to be properly attended to. My advice is to experiment with some of the low manipulation hair styles first and see what works for you.

  • kammie said:

    How long after a perm should I wait to wash my hair?

  • sarah said:

    Im 14 and relaxed my hair at 12 I really want it to grow but it only stays at the same length its thick but really dry and when it starts to grow it begins to break, how can I grow my hair and continue to relax it

  • Stephanie said:

    I recently had a baby and I noticed that my hair has become weaker over the past few months. My hair is extremely dry and brittle. I can’t run my fingers through my hair without several strands remaining in my hand. I also noticed within a few days of washing my scalp itches and feels sensitive. What type of products would you recommend that I use to solve this issue?

  • Georgia said:

    Wow!!!!!!! Interesting…just seriously started my hair journey and I was brushing my hair and ends…thought it vwas good after I moisturize and seal…BIG MISTAKE… Thanks a lot for your article.

  • Hope said:

    Hi Brenda
    I absolutely love your blog,I bleaced my hair late last november and now it feels dry and honestly isn’t looking so good,my hair is also relaxed.I just wondered if there’s anything I can do to help it recover? Iv started using only natural products in my hair like coconut oil,olive oil and castor oil (and some tea tree oil here and there).I mainly use these oils on my scalp.Please help me..I have no idea what to do to help my hair :(

  • jazz said:

    Hi, I have relaxed hair and I was wondering what’s the best moisturizer and deep conditioner to use. The only product I use is coconut oil but my hair still comes out kind of dry.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Jazz,
      Coconut oil should be put on hair after a moisturizer not as a moisturizer. That maybe why your hair feels dry.

  • chrisann said:

    Hi i have really learnt alot here. My hair is uneven, the right side always longer than left. The haidresser keeps cutting it to make it even but it always grow back that way. What should i do? Also how can i really get rid of split ends, my hair just cant seem to grow back to the length it used to.

  • SUNSHINE said:

    my hair is dry brittle from over processing how and where should I start on this relaxed hair journey to revive my once lustrous mane thanks

  • robyn said:

    Im having a slight issue with my hair…firstly Im considering doing a switch with my moisturizer its the olive oil incredibly rich hair lotion. i think its too heavy for my hair and it contains sulphates which im quite curious about. Could u recommend a milder more efficient moisturizer and explain the effect of sulphates on the hair please?

  • robyn said:

    Im also concerned with my hair after a workout.honestly i exercise everyday and when Im done my hair is drenched with sweat and I cant necessarily wash it every single day so i try for every week or so. Ive noticed that when the perspiration dries on my hair its dry and it breaks and sheds and all kinds of terrible stuff. hence, Im seeking your advice as to what you think can be done so that i can effectively take care of my hair after a workout.

  • koko said:

    Hi Brenda,

    Can I just say that just a month ago I had my hair relaxed for the first time because I really wanted to achieve a nice short hairstyle which I managed. My main reasons for doing it was because my natural hair was just not coping. However I have found your page and you are absolutely awesome. I am taking down every tip as I have no idea how to manage this hair and no matter what I do my hair always seems to feel dry. My hair is constantly breaking when I put my hand through my hair I am guaranteed to see at least 3 strands of hair and its stressing me out now.

    Also do you know of any remedies to help thinning edges because thats also a problem of mine.

    Honestly thank you so much your page has giving me hope and encouraged me not to be disheartened. x

  • pamela said:

    Hey I have seen other articles that say I need organic,clarifying and moisturizing shampoos so do I need all that or not and what deep conditioners do you recommend I use and how often

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Pamela,
      I have no idea what type of hair you have, if it is processed or unprocessed, your hair porosity level. Hence, I could not give you a recommendation.

  • annabel said:

    pls hav been trying to maintain ma relaxed hair, but rather it’s becoming shotter and loosing weight. I really dnt knw wat to do

  • Lora said:

    I have not been relaxed in 6 months but i had box braids in the beginning and i wanted too wait if i can relax it again but can i do it without breakage? and my ends are still relaxed so if i do relax it will my hair fall out i have been trying everything to grow it out all i have been doing is putting it in a bun and its still not growing

  • Zelda said:

    I would like to start off saying I agree with pretty much everything you said, and you hair is gorgeous. I started my journey a year and a half ago, and my hair is now past my shoulders. The only thing I don’t agree with is not using a brush. Like you said, a soft brush is better, but not using one at all is not totally true. I use the Denman boar bristle brush, and it works well for me. I use it daily and I see very little shedding, being that we shed hair daily anyway, it is not abnormal to see a little hair. Brushing helps with the strays and fly aways for those of use who prefer neat styles. The cheap hard brushes are a different story, they will reek havoc on the tresses, and I would definitely recommend spending a few extra dollars on a boar bristle brush, if you are able to. Thank you for sharing your secrets, a majority mirror my own.

  • Diamond said:

    Hi brenda,

    I thorouhghly enjoyed your article. Ive always wrapped my hair at night. This method causes me to brush my hair around my head until its molded to my head. Is there another method you would recommend for night routine?

  • Tiara said:

    Hi Brenda im 19 year old from Ghana..I’ve always barbed my hair since education system diesnt allow braids,weaves or any hairstyle in school.I started growing my hair after high school in 2014 and it was doing quite well.in march this year I relaxed my hair with a BO 16 kit and this made the thickness of my hair reduce drastically.it has become quite thin and im worried because I want my hair to be like the previous years.I use dark and lovely(beautiful beginners) for relaxing.what should I do please? please reply me in my email.thank u dear

  • fatima said:

    Hello Brenda. I need help on convincing my mum that I need to change to hair care regimen. Before I continue, I would like to give you guys a bit of background about my hair:
    I began relaxing my hair when I was about 7 years old. Each time I had a touch up, I recall that the hairdresser didn’t just put the relaxer in my new growth, but she also spread it all across my hair. Although I occasionally braided my hair, the damage crept up to me when I was in grade 4. A week or two after a “touch up”, I noticed that a lot of my hair fell off on my pillow. I told my mum about the suspected breakage, but she first blamed me for cutting my hair. To add insult to injury, when she took out the twist-out the hairdresser did after the touch up, my whole entire front edge area had broke off. When my mum finally realized that it was breakage, not her child cutting their own hair, she decided to braid my hair to grow the edges back. About 4 years of braiding later, not only have my edges grown back, but my hair was at the time natural. Because I desired to have a relaxed hair style (and also because my mum looks down upon natural hair), I had my hair relaxed in grade 8. After that, my hair looked very nice.

    But fast forward a year later, my hair looks dull. Why? Well, I can’t target just one thing, but it is through multiple hair mistakes, such as putting relaxer on already relaxed hair, not using a protein treatment after touch-ups, and not washing my hair frequently*(which results in not conditioning frequently). I have been looking up “how to take care of relaxed hair” since I was in middle school (I’m now in high school), but when I try to tell my mum these facts, she either shrugs it off or gets mad at me**. Although I don’t like dealing with my parents in general when they’re angry, I also don’t want to deal with dry, damaged hair until I turn 18.

    Any ideas on how to talk to my mum about better ways to take care of hair? Thanks!!
    *My mum and I have different opinions on what counts as washing hair too much. While she considers washing weekly too much, I consider washing twice a week (with shampoo) as too much.

    **I understand that my mum and I don’t see eye to eye on every issue. Although she is clearly in the right most of the time, I’m not sure if she’s still on the same side on this issue.

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