My Hair Regimen

Hair Philosophy: Less is More.

Hair Treatment: I give my hair a hot oil treatment every Thursday night with the hot oil recipe.

Shampoo: I shampoo my hair every Friday morning with a non-sulfate shampoo. Most times I use my own concoction. Once a month I shampoo with baking soda and apple cider vinegar.

Condition: I  co-wash hair twice per week when my hair is 12 weeks post relaxer. I use Porosity Control Conditioner or my own concoction. For a good ‘under the kitchen sink’ kind of condition for my hair, I use Avocado and Honey. For a gooey, sticky, natural protein conditioner  I use Molasses and Eggs. It makes my hair silky and soft.

Deep Condition: There are times when I use my homemade concoctions and they work just as well. However, in my bathroom cupboard are two deep conditioners: Motions CPR and ORS Hair Mayonnaise. I can’t wait to try Tropic Isle Living Jamaican Protein Conditioner.

Hair Styles: I wear my hair mainly in curls. I do braid outs, twist outs or buns that last for the week. I rarely comb my hair.

Product Must Have: Baking Soda,  Apple Cider Vinegar and Castor Oil without them my cupboard feels empty.

Favorite Hair Moisturizer In Order of Preference:  ORS Carrot Oil for the first four weeks after processing, S-Curl Activator for the last four weeks before re-touch. Normally I do not use moisturizers if I did a good job with the deep conditioner.

Favorite Oils In Order of Preference: Castor Oil, Coconut Oil, Olive Oil, Lavender Oil.

Products I would love to use and why? : Jamaica Black Castor Oil Moisturizing Shampoo with Shea Butter by Tropic Isle. To quote from their site the shampoo “contains no sulphates, parabens and other potentially harmful chemicals. It’s made of Jamaican Black Castor Oil and other organic and natural ingredients such as, aloe vera, Jamaican pimento oil and shea butter. All these ingredients, together, give our shampoo the moisturizing and stimulating benefits dried out hair truly needs.”  Can’t wait to use it!

Hair Relaxer: Affirm

Products on the Black List and why: Doo Grow Protein  Deep Conditioner made my hair feel like straw and not even a deep moisturizing conditioner could get it back supple until after three weeks of constant moisture. Not the fault of the product I am sure, it was just not a right fit for my hair.

Share your regimen with us and we will post it in this section of the site.


  • AndroidAppy said:

    If your regime gives results like this then I say it is worth a try.

    • Brenda said:

      It is worth a try. Tweak it to fit your particular hair and you should be fine.

  • Celisa said:

    Your hair looks great,as usual, but every week? Is a weekly regimen really necessary, how about every 2 weeks? Doing anything with the hair is SUCH a tedious process (for me anyway, it’s certainly not anything that I enjoy).

    • Brenda said:

      When I first started out, I thought the same thing. However, I quickly realized that with the weekly sessions my hair which tends to be dry was doing so much better with the weekly treatment. By week two or three, I started seeing a difference so I stuck with the regime. Sometimes I slack off and I do not follow the exact process every week but I quickly catch up. My aim is to go hip length just for the hell of it, so I am determined to stick with the regime. However, I rarely comb my hair so I think of the weekly process as hair time. Try to do it every week and it will become a habit.

  • trudz said:

    I have a few questions about the hair regimen.

    Do you wrap your hair at nights?

    For the homemade concoctions do you add anything for fragrance (especially when you use eggs)?

    And most importantly, after washing your hair, how do you dry it?

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Trudz,

      I wrap my hair only after the first three weeks after getting it done. It is usually curly so I just moisturize, put it in a loose bun or braids, tie it with my silk scarf and that’s it for my nightly ritual.

      For the homemade concoctions I add lavender oil or peppermint oil. What I find is that when I use eggs and use vinegar or lemon the hair does not smell raw. So when I am using lemon in my egg mixture I use no fragrance at all. Surprisingly, my hair does not smell ‘eggy’.

      After washing my hair, I usually air dry it. I am on a non-heat regime that seems to be working well for my hair. I use the dryer very rarely like twice every four months.

  • Trudz said:

    Ok thanks for the feedback. I’m trying some of your recipes today (apple cider vinegar and the avocado moisturizer), I also used a baking soda was before the vinegar. I must admit I was tempted to reach for that shampoo bottle because I felt my hair just wasn’t getting clean, but I resisted. In terms of smell, surprisingly it wasn’t as bad as I had imagined, ( I didn’t have lavender oil, like you suggested), in fact the coconut-avocado combination made me kinda hungry :). I’m still waiting for my hair to dry so I can see the results. Wish me luck!

    • Brenda said:

      Hey Trudz,

      Best of luck. How did it go? I did the hair growth deep conditioner recipe this weekend and my hair was thick and strong, my husband keeps exclaiming that it works, your kitchen recipes work! LOL! I only do the protein treatments once per month though.

  • Sherill said:

    Hi, I just started my hair journey an there’s alot I don’t know. My hair was fine at first but I thought I was using too much protein so I stopped all together I was deep conditioning every week with cholesterol an about eight different oils moisturing an sealing co-washing once a week, but my was did not respond well. My hair won’t hold curls even after roller setting. So, after this last relaxer I did a Aphogee protein treatment a week later there was no change so I’m not sure what to do. It’s shredding an breaking. I use Shea butter, coconut oil, herbal essence leave in as moisture, elastase QP mango butter my hair hair is thinning out I can tell PLEASE HELP I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH SL HAIR an yes I bun an do not comb everyday I keep it up

    • Brenda said:

      Sent you an email Sherill.

      • fran said:

        I am having similar problems as Sherill, you sent her an email…please share

  • KC Brown said:

    Hi Brenda,

    I was planning on getting a relaxer this week since it’s been four weeks and possible cutting my hair again. But I am so happy to have fund this site. I am so turned off by salons because every time and I do mean everytime I go in for perm or treatment I ask for advise on how to take care of my hair at home and can never get any real honest answer and it always make me switch to a new salon and eventually down the road chopping it all off and turn back to my natural hair which I cannot really manage because it is so tightly curl (think cotton ball).

    I am going to push off the relaxer and try your hair regimen this week because my hair is very very dry and starting to shed.

    So happy to have finally found you, where have you been? The information here is giving me hope for my hair that I never had before and I am so looking forward to starting my own regimen. Thank you.

    • Brenda said:

      Hi KC,

      You are most welcome, I am happy you found the site too. I enjoy sharing the info. I have found that some stylists are not happy when you have knowledge of your own hair and what it takes to make it flourish, when you do-it yourself, you will need them less. To combat the hair dryness, you can try a sulfate free shampoo along with a good conditioner. Have fun with your hair.

  • KC Brown said:

    Also, I comb my hair everyday and use a curling iron on work morning. I would like to avoid the combs as well and was hoping you had some long term style suggestions for short hair? thanks

    • Brenda said:

      I am going to update the style section of the site very soon for all hair lengths.

  • Adri said:


    I just started my journey to less processed and healthier,longer hair; I’m a college undergrad applying to grad school with 2 jobs and no time! I really want to give my hair the attention & love it deserves but I don’t know what to do! I only relax my hair every 3 months(because of the financial reasons) and the in-between time is really rough for me if I can’t find someone to do a sew-in. Also, I’m trying to lay off of the weave and give my own hair its time to shine. Where do I start?!?

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Adri,

      I was in the same situation a few years ago. I am going to write an article entitled: “Hair Regimen On A Budget” very soon outlining all the ins and outs.

      • Adri said:


        I can’t wait for it! Thanks for replying =)

  • Abigail said:

    hi,am an african and i have thick curly hair.ive tried most relaxers but my hair keeps breaking from the middle got very bad so i had to cut and start all over.have used Motions protein treatment for the mean time but dont know what to do again,which relaxer and treatments to use again.i need ur help plsssss……

  • jasmin said:

    Hi Brenda,

    Like you, my hair is relaxed and waist length. I’m curious about why you rarely comb your hair. I have found that not combing makes my hair tangle more easily, because the shed hairs get caught. I use a very wide tooth Hercules Sagemann comb that thankfully detangles without damaging my hair. I use it daily, and also as a detangling comb when I shampoo and Deep condition. Do you finger comb?

    • Brenda said:

      Hey Jasmin,
      When I wear my hair in curly styles (setters, twist outs, braid outs etc). I usually just finger comb my hair to get it looking fresh during the week or gently comb the sides to get it in a curly ponytail or bun, or re-curl using any of the methods with lots of moisture to get my curls fresh. Then at the end of the week I wash out the curls. This means that my hair is rarely combed for the week. My schedule these days is: Wash/Deep Con/Comb on Friday- Do a Curly Style To Last All Week- Moisturize And Seal When Needed-Wash On Friday Again. When I comb it the most is when I wear straight styles, which is usually the first three or so weeks after relaxing and involves wrapping the hair at night. I rarely experience shedding these days with this regimen, and I think that is down to being on top with my moisturizing. My hair is usually really well moisturized even on wash day which makes the whole process of detangling simpler.

  • Hanna said:

    hey, I love your site.

    I couldn’t believe how many of my products had ‘the forbidden’ ingredients in them! I threw them out instantly.
    I am excited to try my new regime. (although i have to wait a while for my amazon orders)

    Recently i started using Coconut oil, almond oil and neem oil in my hair (together and massage) either 2 hrs or over night and my hair felt wonderful. my strands feel a lot stronger. Unfortunately, my har is still falling out and I still have dandruff. grrrrrrr.

    I can’t wait to add your suggestions to my routine.

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Hanna,
      I am happy you love the site, the oil combination sounds good. Some eucalyptus/peppermint oil (about 3-5 drops) added to your oils can help with dry scalp. If you really have dandruff (its different from dry scalp) dandruff is usually flaky/ oily with bigger flakes can cause hair loss. To be on the safe side check it out with your dermatologist.

  • Avril said:

    Hi brenda

    I dont think baking soda is good for your hair… It has a very high ph level. I just started on my healthy hair journey about two weeks ago. I am doing a lot of research on hair care…I find out a lot of product that I bought while on this new journey is not good for my hair, so I am in the process learning…let me know what you think about the baking soda.

    • Brenda said:

      The hair’s natural pH is 4.5-5.5. Baking soda has a pH of 8-9, some relaxers go up to 14, so you can have an idea that baking soda is high on the alkaline side of the pH scale.

      Baking soda is good in two ways: it leaches the elements out of water that are responsible for making it hard, it bonds to the ions in water thus softening the water (hard water is drying to hair) and secondly when dissolved in water and used as a shampoo it is actually milder than regular shampoos with sulfates.

      Because of its high pH level, it should not sit on the hair for too long (2-3 minutes max) and it should always be dissolved in water before applied to your hair. It would be dangerous to keep it on your locks undiluted for a long period of time, say 30 minutes or more. It could damage the hair that way.

      Apart from that, it is fine to use as a shampoo. I use it as a clarifying shampoo every month or six weeks, and then I condition my hair. I had to use it last year to get rid of the build up that I had on my hair from over conditioning. It worked fine for that. There are friends of mine with natural hair who use it every week and they swear by it. If you are interested in using it as a shampoo, my advice would be to go slow. Try it once for the month, see if it works for your hair.

      Check out this link How to Wash Hair with Baking Soda: Recipe and Steps. Adjust the baking soda, to 1 Tbsp to a cup of water and see how it works for you.

  • Hanna said:

    Thanks for the response.

    I think I have dry scalp after reading ur reply. My hair is really dry after a week, it looks more dirty than flaky. Still gross. Lol. I will try the peppermint oil. (excited). Going to wash my hair after 5 days instead of my regular 7/8. It’s been like this for about 2 months. Grrrrrr.

    Anyway …

    I did ur air dry method today and I can’t believe it was so simple n effective! I was settling in for a day at home then I had to go on the road. I gently did my hair up in a loose ponytail and it looked nice! Thank u so much. My hair didn’t even come out!

    Got my amazon order today so I’m excited about that as well. I shared ur site with my family. They r excited to try ur remedies as well.

    Thank u again.

  • Renee said:

    Hi Brenda! Thanks for the information on your website. Its been insightful. I plan to use some of solutions to fix my hair problems. I tend to have very dry hair and it shedds like crazy! I am bless as my hair is still pretty thick but I struggle to maintain length. My hair won’t grow pass shoulder length. I would like it to grow it to bra strap. My question is..I see you use braid outs. I’ve tried this method a few times but I struggle with maintaining the style for a week or until next wash day. I also notice that my hair comes out and shedds more frequently in a braid out style or any none straight hair style. Any suggestions would be appreciated : ) thanks!

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Renee,

      I am assuming you are switching up products and eliminating some things from your regimen in order to combat the shedding- Right? As well as eating right etc. etc. Whenever, I have shedding I always do stock taking in my hair cupboard and my life and ask myself-what has changed since before the shedding.

      I love braid outs because I don’t have to comb my hair, I usually re-braid after a day or two with moisturizer and seal with an oil. I usually do not comb it out to re-braid. I just search for my old braid patterns and plait them over, finger combing after I take it out the next day. The thing about braid outs is that you haven’t combed your hair for an extended period so the dead hairs (hair that you would otherwise be combing out through the week with a regular hairstyle) will add up and it will seem like you are losing an excessive amount of hair . So I am going to ask you to do this experiment- comb your hair normally for the week and save all the hairs that you comb out, shampoo and condition your hair normally and save those hairs too.

      For another week do a braid out style, remember that doing braid outs does not involve using a comb at all. You just finger comb to make your curls fluffy and requires no parting of the hair with a comb after your first go. Moisturize your hair every time you re-braid the hair, a spray bottle with water works fine too as moisturizer and then seal the moisture in with oil. At the end of the week, do not comb the hair out, wash out your curls-shampoo normally (no combing) then deep condition (use a moisturizing conditioner with extra slip) and then comb the hair.

      Compare the hair coming out with an ordinary week of regularly combing and washing the hair, if you lost more during the braid out week, then I say do it infrequently. If you lose less during braid out then by all means do it often. The key to successful braid outs is the moisture and sealing plus no combing method. The thing is, your hair gets next to no agitation during the week and is fed loads of moisture. Do it right and I am sure you will see results.

  • milly said:

    Hi Brenda,
    My name is milly, I just discovered this site, and I am already excited. African hair is not so easy to take care of. I had an afro 2 years ago, and decided to relax it. After a few month of relaxing my hair started falling out in chunks. Yes I did regular treatments at salon,but my hair continued to fall out. So I decided to cut it and start afresh with no chemicals. I
    I now have afro,but now my hair is falling out again. I do treatments at salon. I’m wondering if the hair fall might be caused by the products they use to condition my hair and shampoo.

    Anyway,I have decided after reading this site that I will no longer go to the hair salon. Another serious problem I’m having is hair loss in the front caused by constant braiding and I’m wondering what I can use to make sure my hairline grows back.
    I would like to know how I can keep my natural hair neat without combing or looking untidy.

    Thank you

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Milly,
      I will be posting a series on hair loss soon, please read the articles on that topic. There are several types of hair loss and several causes, you may find the articles helpful in pinpointing exactly what is happening with your hair. It is quite possible that the products used in your hair at the salons are not appropriate for your hair. In the meantime, you mentioned that you have traction alopecia in the hair front caused by braiding, that is unfortunately very common, check out this article on the topic: Traction Alopecia: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow…there are some solutions in the article for avoiding traction alopecia in the future.
      How to keep your natural hair neat without combing or looking untidy? There are a few loc styles that can help you with this- sisterlocks, dreadlocks etc. If you choose to go with any of these styles remember that it is usually permanent or hard to reverse. Read up more about the styles at and decide if that style is for you.
      Have a great day.

  • milly said:

    Hi Brenda,
    Thank u for your response I love your site. I have started doing my own hair treatment and I have stopped using hair drier on my hair. I have also started doing hot oil treatments once a week. And I now apply carrot oil and coconut oil to my hair. I now pre-shampoo and condition my hair.

    I’ve seen improvement, breaking is about 50 %less than it was before.

    I will continue this. Brenda please tell me how many times a week should I wash my hair? And my hair is no longer black, I want it to be more black without using dye. How can I achieve this?

  • yannii said:

    Just a question, do you have non-porous or porous hair.

    I am looking to start my own hair regimen, and I’ve found that my hair is non-porous which explains why conditioners never seem to react to my hair, and the fact that I barely ever use it. But your regimen seems pretty promising and would like to try it.


    • Brenda said:

      Hi Yannii,
      I would say I have average hair porosity, it is neither low or high. Low or what you call non-porous hair is supposed to be healthy hair, high porosity is damaged hair- easy to absorb anything because of gaps and holes on the hair shaft. To get the conditioner to work for you you may have to use a “low heat” setting with a penetrative conditioner for at least thirty minutes for it to penetrate your tresses or do the baggy method, where you apply the conditioner to your hair and then cover it with plastic overnight or for a couple hours. Make sure it is a penetrative conditioner though, ordinary conditioners will not give you the results that you want.

  • Balindile said:

    Hi Brenda,

    I have a couple questions about your weekly hot oil treatments. Firstly, are there any other oils you can recommend as alternatives to eucalyptus and peppermint oils? They’re rather tricky to find here in South Africa, and I was wondering if I couldn’t rather substitute them with coconut or grapeseed oil?

    Also, when I did my hot oil treatments at home in the past, I got the oil so hot that I couldn’t actually handle it, and so I’d just sort of dip my comb in it and comb it through my hair, and although it made my hair pretty straight and soft, I kinda had the feeling I wasn’t doing it right. How ‘hot’ is the oil actually supposed to get, and how is it meant to be applied?

    Thanks so much for the amazingly informative articles. I actually also once believed that ‘black’ hair was just incapable of growing past shoulder length. Thanks for proving me wrong!

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Balindile,
      I am happy I proved you wrong, Yay! I hope that you prove many people wrong on your hair journey and share your info with the ladies in South Africa.

      There are three ways to do the hot oil treatment, there is the lazy girl’s way- put your oils in a microwavable container and put it in the microwave for 20 seconds, if it is too hot to handle, wait until it is comfortable enough for your fingers to dip into the mixture and you can apply it to your hair with ease.

      The second way, is to put your oils or oil if you are using just one, in a container with a cover (glass preferably) boil some water in a separate container (saucepan, pot) and then turn off the boiling water and put your glass bottle in the hot water for about five minutes. It should be pleasantly warm, be careful not to burn your fingers when taking it out. After that apply the oil while it is still warm, cover your hair with plastic and let your body heat do the rest.

      The third way is to part your hair and ensure that all your strands have oil on it, pin it up in a loose ponytail under a plastic cap, go under a hair dryer (setting should be cool or low heat) for 10-20 minutes. Keep on your plastic cap for an hour or more after that.

      There are several oils that you can use for hot oil treatment, coconut oil is very good and is one of the most penetrative of all the oils, I use it sometimes with an essential oil like rosemary, here’s a link to the list of oils and their uses- Oils Explained: Essential Oils and Carrier Oils For Hair

  • milly said:

    Hi Balindile.
    I’m from south africa,and I saw you were saying you struggle to get the oils. Well dear I always find mine at the CLICKS store, by the vitamin section. Thebottles are small,they hard to find in the isles but they are there.they have a whole range including carrier oils.

    All the best dear

  • Gessica said:

    Hi Brenda. I just made a tiny breakthrough with my hair. I can finally pull off a ponytail! Lol but my hair breaks n dry out. Can you be specific with your regimen like the homemade “shampoo “or any suggestion how to start taking care of it but on a low budget

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Gessica, this morning I am adding a new category called My Hair Diary. I will be very specific with what I use etc. and will update every Friday. I pride myself on being very low budget, I hope it helps.

  • iLoveme said:

    Can i just use honey and egges ?

    • Brenda said:

      Yes you can. Add a tablespoon or so of conditioner for slip.

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  • Sheronne Lee said:

    I need help badly hair is breaking my sides are breaking off. It use to look halfway decent.cant get it to grow for anything… can you help

  • Infinee' said:

    First, I love this site, found it doing a serch for useful essential oils and now I visit frequently.

    Second, I’m at a crossroad with this whole hair thing. I’m Puerto Rican and Black, and my hair is every bit as mixed. It’s thick, I’m not sure of the curl pattern since it’s been relaxed since I was a young girl, and chin length. I was relaxing every 5-6 weeks, heat styling, and running through store products like you wouldn’t believe…only to cut it because my ends were fried. I think I’m going to transition to natural hair. I’m 8 wks post (going crazy) and have either done braidouts or curlformer sets. Because of your site and youtube, I have purchased various carrier oils and essential oils, yogurt, vegetable glycerine, sulfur free shampoos, moisturizing conditioners etc…I have to do the braidouts over daily or it looks crazy the next morning….

    HELP!!!! I’ve read many of the articles, I’ve tried most of the steps, but I’m still breaking. What do you suggest for a regimen to remedy this mess????? Thanks 🙂

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Infinee,
      I am happy that the site is helpful for you. Check out this regimen Typical Hair Regimen for Breaking Hair. If your hair is still breaking, I would suggest that you stop the braid-outs for a while since you have to do them every day which might be too much handling for your hair, maybe you can try other hairstyles to incorporate your curls like straw-sets or roller sets and see how long your curls can last for the week.

  • Michelle said:

    Hi Brenda,

    My daughter is 12 yrs old and “used” to have the longest hair in our family…it was past her bra strap. Over the past 2 years theres been unbelievable amounts of breakage from heat and perms. It seems as if her hair has totally stopped growing. My daughter loved her long hair and REALLY wants it back. Where should I start to begin the process of growing her hair back? I’ve read your website but am overwhelmed on where to begin. Now that summer is approaching this would be a perfect opportunity for me to heal her hair.

    Thank you for putting this information out there! It was meant for me to find you! I’ve been needing this to help my daughter.

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Michelle,
      Thank you for stopping by, a good place to begin would be-What is the secret to having long thick hair (Part One and Two) these articles sum up the process quite well. However, for your daughter’s situation I would recommend that you first start by giving her hair a hot oil treatment and a deep conditioning treatment every week, for the three months of summer you can keep the hair moisturized and sealed with castor oil every day, castor oil thickens and heals, hence the suggestion. Try no manipulation for the week by just plaiting or twisting her hair for the week and getting the hair up and out of the way. You can spritz it with moisturizer as needed and then just wash and deep condition hair on the specified days. Use a combination deep conditioner for the deep conditioner treatment (Motions CPR works). For the three months of summer you can avoid relaxing the hair, just keep it super moisturized. You should see vast improvement by only doing these things.

  • Tashana said:

    I am on my third round of relaxing my hair, meaning I have relaxed and grown out my hair three times already each time its cause my hair gets badly damaged. I have no idea as to how to care for my hair so I have been reading lately but i need help badly. A month of so ago I had beautiful growing hair now its dry broken and badly damaged. Im really confused since everyone has different opinions about the different products out there. Can you help me?

    • Brenda said:

      Hi Tashana,
      I am so sorry to hear that your hair is dry and damaged now. Ironically, I am thinking that the first thing that you need to do is to lay off of some of the products you are using. Check out this link Secret to Growing Long, Thick Hair and then look at the regimens that I recommend under hair regimen and see which one would best suit you and your budget. I am usually not into using many products myself and I find that when I use less my hair does better.

  • Julia Yap said:

    Hi Brenda,

    Can the ORS Hair Mayo be used as a weekly deep conditioner? Is it more protein based or moisture based?


    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Julia,
      The ORS Hair Mayo is considered to be medium protein/moisture. It is a mixture of both protein and moisture. There are some weeks when I DC with it constantly then I give my hair a break. Maybe you could experiment with the frequency and see how your hair feels.

  • Julia Yap said:


    How do you co-wash? What is the correct procedure to co-washing?


    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Julia,

      When I co-wash, I wet my hair thoroughly and massage the conditioner in circular motions on my scalp. Like a massage but the aim is to clean the scalp. Sometimes I add baking soda to the conditioner for a cleaner feel.

  • Julia Yap said:

    Hi Brenda,

    What product do you use to smooth your edges when stretching your relaxer? I was using the elasta QP glaze but recently discovered it has mineral oil. Any suggestions?

    Also what do you use to moisturize the two textures, (new growth and relaxed)especially the new growth when stretching.



  • Rose said:

    Which non-sulfate shampoo do you use?

  • Rose said:

    which sulfate free conditioner can I use? and which one do you use? I’ve been trying to find a good, affordable one.

  • Rose said:

    Thank you so much! You are amazing! And very beautiful. I am starting my hair journey using your advice and I look forward to a promising hair length.

  • Nolwandle said:

    hi Brenda,

    Im from South Africa, I wanted to know where I could fine the Jamacian oil?

  • plaintain1 said:

    What about using an old pair of tights to put on my head to sleep at nights, is this ok? I used to have midlength hair (or just as long as your own) but I cut it all off and went for a mohican hair style and I’m pleased with it. The only thing I used a black permanent dye five days ago and then relaxed it two days ago. The result is a copperish brownish tone, not what I expected but it looks really nice. Will I have problems with my hair after doing this?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Plaintain,

      If the tights is a silky material that does not absorb your hair oils, it should be fine. I would love to see your hairstyle and color. I was told that dying the hair and relaxing it in the same time period is not good for the hair, but you’ve done it already so I would suggest deep conditioning the hair every week just to be on the safe side. Maybe next time you could space out both chemical processes at least two weeks apart.

  • Sharon said:

    Hi Brenda

    Your article is so informing , im excited , Anyway i was getting my hair relaxed before and it broke really badly , i had to cut it off and start from scratch .. This is were i need your help , I cut it for 8months straight so that the relaxer can completely wear off and now the 9th month I have started to keep my hair .

    I want to keep it natural for some time before i start using relaxers , What are the guides to keeping natural ethnic hair and ps share some styles i can do on Natural Hair


    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Sharon,
      I aim to please. I genuinely love to see healthy black hair. The requests for natural hair styles are piling up, I am going to have to do something about this soon. What is your hair length now, let me know so that I can make a relevant hair style suggestion.

  • lucy said:

    I want to try the avocado and honey conditioner. I have heard about changing the way I take care of my hair on your site and But your regimen seems a little extreme.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Lucy,
      My hair regimen is seriously simple. I do an overnight hot oil treatment when my hair is dry or feels like it needs it. then I shampoo and condition it. I wear my hair in curly styles all week and then I go over the process again. That’s it! Of course it changes when I exercise. I will try to update this space every month next year to reflect any changes.

      • himani said:

        hi brenda 🙂

        what is Dead Sea Morrocan Argan Oil Hair Mask and how can we prepare it at home. is it really beneficial for hair??

  • Michelle said:

    I have 2 questions:
    1. Have you heard of “Wild Grow” hair oil? If so, does it really work?
    2. Will taking Biotin pills help with hair growth?

  • gwendolyn said:

    My hair is about one to two inches long and it is texturized. I don’t really like braiding my own hair and it is not long enough to twist. I don’t really know how to syle it. I also tried using cocunut cream, honey, lemon and olive oil warm mixture in my hair but it didn’t soften out and ended up using an herbal essence conditioner to detangle. What style options are available and what can i use as a daily moisturizer or leave-in conditioner without having to rinse?

  • gwendolyn said:

    and how long do you think it would take for my hair to grow waist length?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Well Gwendolyn, a good daily moisturizer for textured hair is water. Then seal it in, when your hair is damp with an oil (organic, so that your hair can get the nutrients from it). You could probably wear a baby fro until your hair is long enough to twist or get creative with hats and scarves. Hair grows 4 to six inches per year and if you retain that growth and only cut an inch off throughout the year, then you can track how many years your hair will take to reach your waist.

      • gwendolyn said:

        Thanks for the advice. I also wanted to know about cutting the hair. I’ve often heard people say that they will never cut there hair, is that a healthy way to think. Is it possible to keep your hair healthy and long and possible even without ever really having to cut the hair?

        • Brenda Barrett said:

          It is possible to keep hair healthy and long without cutting it. However, in the everyday handling of hair, ends will inevitably split and they have to be cut off before the split travels all the way up the hair shaft. If someone is meticulously looking for splits in their ends everyday and they find them and stop them in their tracks, there is no reason to cut the hair for one or two splits. Some persons do a quarter inch cut just to make sure they have all their ends evened out and looking good every six months. Either way is good. The key is not to hang on to split ends. So if you don’t have any and the hair ends are in good condition, then there’s no need for a trim.

  • gwendolyn said:

    Just a couple of days ago, I learned how to two strand twist so I have my hair in that protective style for the week but my hair is reacting weird because I’m use to wetting my hair everyday not very use to having my scalp exposed. My scalp is itching my alot I’ve been trying to apply shea butter when that happens but what do you think I should do about this itchy problem?

  • Kelly said:

    Good day Brenda, this is my first time leaning over to the all natural hair products and I really would like some help. I really would like some help in this field. My hair is thick and relax and I wanted to start a regimen to co-wash my hair every week and every other week shampoo and condition. Now my thing is I just djust don’t know if that’s the right way to go because firstly I’m not to shor which shampoo I shud use that is non-sulfate , I get confused between a moisturizing conditioner which also I don’t know which one to use and a deep conditioner and when I should use that . Nevertheless I would like help to know what is a good daily moisturizer. I really need some help and the ingredients that I own right now is just some basic olive oil mayo eggs n mango butter I mainly use basic ingredients so can u see if you could stick to the basic please.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Kelly,
      1. There are several non-sulfate shampoos on the market. Check this article for a list under shampoo: Hair Regimen On A Budget You can also check under Hair Recipes- Shampoo for some homemade suggestions.
      2. For the different types of conditioners, check this article Conditioner 101.
      3. A good daily moisturizer, check here Basic Moisturizer You can also check under Hair Recipes- Moisturizer for some homemade suggestions.
      4. Your basic ingredients sound good. Check under hair recipes to find some recipes that match what you have.

      All the best.

  • Kelly said:

    Also Brenda I tend to get dandruff so I started a regimen a week ago and before I roller set my hair I sprayed a mixture of water peppermint grapfruit olive oil lavender oil and peppermint was that find because I fear that it might be to much for my hair and I just don’t know where to start or the method in how I should use tthe products please help ASAP so I can start a new regimen this week.

  • Carmen Gandulla said:

    Great article. I stop relaxing my hair about 5yrs ago and I am quite happy with that decesion. I proceeded to put my hair in braids and grew it out. I just noticed that my hair doesn’t hold its curl like it used too. When it was out of braids the curl was just to tight and so I would to the salon to wash & blow dry. (I would go 2twice a month) . It is not as long used to be and its breaking & shedding. When I cut the ends my hair looks awesome but I can’t seem to grow it back.what should do? I randomly switch from wearing it curly or straight. ..

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Thanks Carmen. The thing is your hair doesn’t like the heat. The twice per month blow dry is killing it. It is protesting by breaking and shedding. Cut off the heat for a while and do some deep conditioner treatments every week and see how it goes.

  • kelly said:

    good day brenda well my main problem is i just need some help in creating my own hair regimen. my hair is thick and i did cut it and now it grew back alot from me taking care of it , but i really just wanted to start this natural product process. i started to use some products like the elasta qp mango butter, the protein treatment egg, mayo and olive oil and i rinse my hair with the apple cider vinegar which i thought might have been to strong for my hair. then i sprayed a moisturizing spray with peppermint, lavender, frapefruit extract, honey , olive oil and water , then i applied a little mango butter. Now it wasnt bad but it felt a little heavy and when i went under the dryer and came it my hair looked very dry and i had to put some moisturizer on it. Im a gurl i love to wear my hair out but i couldnt due to how it looked like it needed some more oil. i really need some help in creating my personal own hair regimen. i know that i need some moisture and protein and im writing down all these recipes down but i am just not to shore of the steps in how i should do it. i am on a budget also so i try to stick to the basic ingredients i have egg , mayo, extra virgin olive oil, mango butter, apple cider vinegar, peppermint, lavender, honey .also, i am still searching for a good shampooo and moisturizing conditioner can you give me any tips on some or how to make it with these simple ingredients. i also tend to get confuse with pre-shampoo, co-wash etc in terms of how it should be done. so can you help me in following some steps in when and how i should treat my hair. to give you some help i know that i wanted to co-wash my hair every week and i guess shampoo every other week so can u give me a basic regimen that i can follow i really need this. thank you

  • Cristy Burns said:


    When you say that you usually wear your hair in curls. How are you attaining your curls? Via a curling iron, rollers, bantu knots, product … or is it natural? Let me know. Thanks!

  • Shannon said:

    my hair is breaking and shedding a LOT and i can’t take it i got my hair permed and the lady who did it i am afraid made it worse i don’t know what to do please help

  • C.lena said:

    Thanks for the advise I am a University Student who is also working and at my wits end with my hair. I’m contemplating going natural but you showed me you can be relaxed and have healthy hair. So from now I am starting off by treating my hair better by creating my own regime. Still deciding on the natural thing though. Only time would tell.

    Oh I decided to document my adventure with a blog of my own. My Hair and I Caribbean Chick

    I look forward to reading more of you posts.


  • Lisa said:

    I also use s-curl but My friend has z-curls, do you know if there is something for z-curls?

  • Lisa said:

    Do i need to use conditioners if i always use leave in conditioners ( i mainly use Darcy Botanicals)

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      You need to use conditioners if you use shampoos with sulfates. If not, you don’t really need to use them and just your leave in is fine.

  • Joy Mitchell said:

    I am currently deployed (Afghanistan) and I have been in the military for 13 years. Natural products are very limited here. I am the only African American female here so I have no “help”. I have 4 sons so needless to say, I don’t do hair lol. The military is very harsh on black hair as we have to wear ponytail/buns everyday. Also, wool berets, hats and beanies are apart of our uniform. In between (weekends), I wear half wigs to give my hair a break (at home). Any advice? Also, while I am here I blowdry my hair when I wash it. I wash once a week. What is your best recommendation for blow drying? I have 6 more months to go and it is lonely here.

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Joy,

      I am so late with my reply, you must be back home right now. My best recommendation for blow drying is not to do it. Heat is terrible for hair. I am going to post an article for a simple four product regimen, it is working for me and I am sure you can get these ingredients in Afghanistan.

  • sweetgal said:

    Thanks for the information dear Brenda.
    You mentioned you co-wash 2 times a week. Do you do this when you’re anything from 12 weeks post relaxer?

  • fiona said:

    Love your blog. After years of not understanding I had type 2 coarse wavy hair with a huge tendency to frizz; I’ve embraced my curls and love reading about ways to aid the curls. For me I never brush or comb my hair. I spray with conditioner after I wash and put it in a turban until damp dry to let the curls semi dry without gravity.

  • mimi said:

    Hi! Can the hot oil treatment be counted as a deep conditioner?

  • Eva said:

    Hi Brenda, what do you mean by co-wash? Do you mean you use a moisture and protein conditioner or do you mean?


    • Brenda Barrett said:

      I use a regular conditioner and condition wash the hair (use it instead of shampoo) but I am going to have to update this regimen. I rarely co-wash anymore.

  • Michelle said:

    Once I wash my hair and do the Apple Cider rinse do I run my hair through water or do I leave it on my hair and just dry my hair?

    • Brenda Barrett said:

      Hi Michelle you can leave it in and dry as usual as well as you can finish with a water rinse and dry. Try them both and see which method you prefer.

  • feli said:

    hi Brenda.
    am very lucky to hv dis website, I think ma problem will be solve from today on
    my hair is thin n sometimes break which I don’t no whether is from e product or wat. but I want my hair to be thick n long without breakage, so what do I do pls
    Thank u

  • Ines said:

    Hi Brenda!!!!
    I’m willing to start hair journey for my relaxed hair mainly because for the past 17 years om my life I never took the initiative of properly taking good care of my hair. As a result, my hair hasn’t been healthy at all. Trying to start on a hair care regimen is so overwhelming because I honestly don’t know anything about my hair like what kind of oils, conditioners, moisturizers etc. it likes. However, after reading your articles about relaxed hair and how to care for them I bought several oils like Organic coconut oil, organic olive oil, Jamaican black castor oil, peppermint oil, rosemary oil and the list goes on. My hair is always braided whether naturally or with extension so doing hot oil treatment, pre-shampooing and deep conditioning my hair is very challenging. From this I really want to obtain healthy hair which is my main priority at this point in life. I would really appreciate if you could help or if anyone can help. Before I forget two weeks ago, I decided to make a deep conditioner based of my natural oils which consisted of, coconut oil, olive oil, avocado oil, peppermint which was about 6 drops, a banana and honey. I left it for 35-40 minutes but when I washed off the mixture from my head I realized that my hair became oily after the treatment. My questions is should I be worried or should I find a better mixture?

  • Anonymous said:

    I want to make a statement more than anything else. Though I am not into relaxed hair, but want to grow long natural hair. I have to commend you on your site,it is the rare black site or black hair site that has solutions to self-improvement. Many black sites take the victim angle, yes I do know that racism exists in every aspect of our life, but I don’t care to dwell on it and it is nice to come to a site like yours that has solutions to black hair care and self improvement tips. I have learned more about hair care on your site in 1 hour, than I have on other black hair care site I frequent for days but not no more.

    KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! Your site is positive and a breath of fresh air. Please keep only with the positive and solutions.

  • Adwoa said:

    I wantedto know after washing your hair do you leave it to air dry???

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